“A man loses his sense of direction after four drinks; a woman loses hers after four kisses.”-Henry Louis Mencken
Apparently there is now scientific research that indicates that when a woman engages in kissing with a man, the hormone oxytocin is released in her body. Oxytocin is known as the “love drug” and causes a woman to bond with the man with whom she is kissing. It clouds her rational thought processes and affects her on an emotional level. Oxytocin bonding is very dangerous because regardless of the character of the man she is kissing, once the bonding takes place, she will be emotionally attached. She may find out later he has vices, is violent, is dishonest, is of another religion, or is incompatible in a multitude of ways with the standards she has set for the kind of man she wants, but due to oxytocin bonding, she may find it exceedingly difficult to break the relationship. After this chemical process occurs, and bonding is initiated, friends who see that the man is not right for her may tell her directly and point out the cons of the guy, but she will make excuses because “when I kiss him he makes me feel (fill in the blank).”
Ladies, the only way to keep your head straight so that you think rationally and choose the best man for you is to keep to a “no kissing plan.” Absolutely never kiss a man or boy before you have decided to marry him and are engaged to him. Only after you have made the decision that this is the man for you, should you kiss him, allowing oxytocin bonding to occur.
Just think of how much misery and heartache could be spared by just informing our daughters about the physiological response of their bodies when they kiss a boy, and counseling them to avoid it at all cost, until they are engaged. Virtually every relationship disaster, every immorality tragedy and every relationship disease can be avoided by this simple plan.
All men know the effect kissing has on women, but only until recently have scientists shown the link between kissing and the female hormone oxytocin. So, men, no, it isn’t your great kissing technique that makes a woman melt. When she decides, desires and initiates kissing with you, that hormone is released in her and she’ll melt, regardless of who you are, what you look like or how good or bad you are. Once she has experienced oxytocin bonding with you, she is yours.
This information should scare the daylights out of single and divorced women and parents of girls. Having boyfriends, meaning friends who are boys that you kiss, is dangerous ground to tread. If you don’t want to end up with someone who makes you miserable, but to whom you are oxytocin bonded, don’t ever kiss a man who isn’t your fiance or husband. Period.
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I dunno–I’m a 42 year old woman who kissed ten guys before she married 20 years ago. And though I don’t have regrets, I do mildly wish I had kissed those two or three other guys that I liked so well at the time.
Thank you for a very accurate synopsis of my work. I appreciate you passing along the word!
Sincerely,
Flechelle Morin
Dating to Marriage Consultant
http://www.nokissing.com
LMAO.
I’m a 20 year old religiously-confused female and I’ve never kissed or been kissed because I believe that intimacies between people are very special and should be engaged in only when “the time is right”. I’m supposing that this ‘time’ will be whenever I feel comfortable enough. Sounds like I’m imtimately-confused too huh?
But anyway, thanks for the advice. It sure made me laugh.
This is a joke, right?
I’m totally laughing, either way. Thanks for the post.
Horrible article.
I tell my kids, “If you never start, you’ll never have to stop.” This works for everything that is dubious. Drinking, drugs, sex, and yes…kissing. Take away kissing and how many people would not have pre-marital sex? There’s a correlation here I think. Personally, I didn’t kiss my, not husband, until we kissed across the alter on our wedding day. It wasn’t painful or weird. It just kept our relationship to getting to know each other and our compatibility, without all the interruptions that can lead down bad roads. I don’t think our way is for everyone, but that is the guys hormones talking.
Do said four kisses have to be on the lips? Because I would rather just kiss a girl four times on the cheek, but if I did that, I might be sitting around wondering why this oxytocin bonding didn’t happen.
Men too can become victims of infatuation.
Yes – kissing and petting can cause impaired judgment in both males & females – so beware of your passions. However, being frigid is no way to live either. Clearly living in a sexually unsatisfying relationship is not Heavenly Father’s plan for anyone.
Married couples should be having lots of good healthy sex. Good sex is awesome and as I understand, it is totally cool with God. If we are all spiritual offspring of the same Heavenly Father; then golly heck, you do the math – there was/is a whole lot of kissing going on during the premortal existence.
Therefore, I agree with the author of this article as far as keeping our judgments intact and not allowing passion and infatuation to impair our thinking. But, I warn the author and readers against being fearful prudes who go through married life sexual inhibited and unhappy. It is well worth the risk of stepping out of your safe legalistic cocoon to learn that there is a universe of fun, fantasy, discovery, creativity and fulfillment within your temple marriage.
Good knowledge. I apreciate and enjoy things like this. GO ON ¡
Thanks.